Ok, it is a new year. Everyone will be planning big things. Some will travel more, some will commit to getting into better shape, stop eating junk food, spend more time with family, read that book finally. But for me, it is just two simple words: Be Kind.
First and foremost, I will be kind to me. If I can’t take care of myself, I can’t be the best mom, wife, friend, sister, daughter, or employee. I am going to nurture my mind and body this year. In past years, I have been really good about one or the other, but rarely have I found the balance to do both. Last year, I spent more time nurturing my mind which is great, but I failed to exercise as much as I like and I indulged a little too much (wine and french fries).
Second, I am going to be kind to those around me. This includes that coworker that drives me crazy, that neighbor that won’t clean the yard, and the 17 year-old girl at the grocery checkout line that has a chip on her shoulder.
(Quick side story) I treated myself to a massage for my birthday and while in the waiting room, I witnessed a lady come into the store, surely already angry, and unload on the sweet girl at the desk. She was asking for something that was against the store policy and the girl was as nice as possible. This lady went into everything that was wrong with her life and then told the girl behind the counter, “And now you have ruined my day and caused me more aggravation”. As she stormed out of the store, you could tell she crushed the girl behind the counter. I tried to remind her that what had just happened really had nothing to do with this store policy or anything else; it was a lady having a horrible week, month, or year and she just found the moment to unleash.
When you pull yourself out of the situation, it is easy to see someone else unloading on you and that it is not about you. It is actually very freeing. And when you are kind to that person, giving them some grace, it not only eases the situation, it can also make the other person appreciate your kindness.
Third, I am going to find that person to hold me accountable. I recently got a text message from a dear friend stating her goals for 2017. She was honest and raw about where she fails each year and how she needs accountability and prayers to stay on track. I gladly accepted the challenge but told her that it has to come with kindness and grace too. She can fail, as long as she gives herself grace when it happens and start over.
So I am going to be kind to myself. I am going to remind me it is ok if I miss a workout, it is ok if I eat mashed potatoes for lunch instead of that salad. I am going to allow myself grace. Grace and kindness for 2017.
Tell me, what are you hoping for or striving for this year?
I normally don’t do new year’s resolutions but you inspired me! This year I’m going to live my life in a way that I don’t need a vacation, really try to enjoy all the small moments as well as the big ones. Thank you for the inspiration! Hugs!
Being kind to oneself doesn’t come easy for many of us. I find it very difficult, myself. My goal for the year is to be kind to myself by not being so hard on myself for mistakes and failures. I am trying to teach myself to look at these as “learning experiences” more than the negative of a mistake or failure.
Happy new year and God bless
I needed this reminder “be kind”. I am following in your footsteps. I love you dearly!