I have been reading recently that it is a good idea to put a name for your negative talker in your head. What I read said if you put a name to her or him, you can quickly identify that it is not you, and the ability to pivot from believing the words you are hearing is much greater.
Ok, so what name did you come up with? If you are anything like me, this is a big decision, especially if this person will be in your life for a long time. I don’t want to pick a name I associate good thoughts with or a family or friend’s name. It is much harder than naming your GPS. Liem, the British guy, is mine. We have a great relationship as he ensures I get where I am going via the quickest route, and his pronunciation of some words makes me smile and giggle.
I was on a quest to find the perfect name for my negative talker, right now it goes something like this when she talks, “Oh, there she is, my negative talker.” I have noticed that when I call her out and am open to realizing what is happening and saying, “I see you,” the talk disappears much quicker, and the ability to bring Tric back is much easier. I googled ugly girl names, old names, historic names and then when I found a few I liked, I googled the meaning, because it all has to make sense, right?
I introduce you Ophelia, she is fisty, hard on herself, rarely celebrates the progress, longing for perfection and yet I love her hard.
Btw- I heard the other day that when you hear a negative thought, you need to remove it within 15 seconds. Every 15 seconds, another thought that supports the first will continue thought stacking. I don’t want to waste a minute or even a half on anything negative. Life is too short.
Lilith